Kiss Me…

If you have never heard the song by Ed Sheeran, Kiss Me, then definitely listen to it. I loved the song from the very first time I heard it. There is just such a sweet vulnerability to the song. One day it was no longer just a song that I loved but that became a shared song between myself and another, it became our song.

I was so sad when I felt like I had lost the song when the relationship ended. It had become something that was so us. I even had it set as his ringtone. So, a bit after the relationship had ended I decided I wanted my song back and set out on a little experiment, haha. I set the song as my default ringtone and my alarm tone. Eventually, me hearing the song didn’t remind me of him or us, just the sweet song that I had fallen in love with so long ago. I now sing it loudly (when alone) once more. It belongs to me again and makes me smile.

Now I know you may find this all a bit mushpuppy and I am okay with that. A kiss is very special to me. Kisses of all kinds are! I love my forehead kisses from my children. They are so sweet and have this protective quality to them. I love my sloppy smacks (when he gives them) from my youngest grandson. So I am not only referring to romantic kisses as being special. But the romantic kisses are the ones I feel I need to be more guarded with. There is just so much communicated, so much felt in a kiss.

Recently the topic came up with a group of friends and they mostly feel differently than I do about kisses given out when you aren’t in a relationship with someone. I don’t really ascribe to this swipe right mentality of the world we live in these days. I think my kisses are special and I don’t want to give them to someone that doesn’t at least have an affection for my heart. I don’t like the idea of there being a kiss just for someone to see if there are sparks, to find out if I am a good kisser. I feel like that cheapens the kiss. It is no longer a sweet thing shared but a talent that is being auditioned. I am not okay with giving my kisses away in such a manner, and giving a piece of myself that I may not be ready to share. If you do, then I promise that I am not judging. You do you and what you can lay down with and feel at peace about.

No matter how “square” it makes me, I am going to stick with a hug at the end of a first date…probably second, third, fourth, tenth -you get the point. I have promised myself not to share something I hold so dear freely. I am okay with this about myself and if God has a man on this planet that is meant for me, well he will be okay with my views on kissing and maybe even have the same views.

I am sure my background has a lot to do with my definition of a romantic kiss. There are things that can be taken from a woman against her will, but not a kiss. THAT she must willingly give. Lines get blurry in this world we live in now. I always thought that God didn’t care if you sexually meshed with someone. But he created sex and he created it to be amazing when done within the marital relationship. I know myself well. I know how I feel about the physical aspect of a romantic relationship. I know that kisses will eventually lead to other acts. So, I choose to have faith that if I am ever married again, he will be the most amazing kisser. I do not need to test things out beforehand.

Whatever boundaries you have chosen for yourself, whatever convictions you feel, hold firmly to those! This world will do all it can to lead you astray, to call you peculiar and unrealistic. My advice? Turn to God, talk honestly to him. Ask him to move any person away from you that is not meant for you. I promise that he will take care of it all if you just allow him that space in your life. I do not want another failed relationship in my life so I refuse to do it my way or the world’s way. However unpopular, I am doing this God’s way or no way. 2 Timothy 3 has been on my heart for months and months now and it reinforces my opinions.

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

1 Corinthians 6:18

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own.

1 Corinthians 6:19

So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.

2 Timothy 2:22