Yep, I said bullshit. I call bullshit on all that say the words “I love you”, but do not back it up with actions!
There is nothing faulty about being broken. But if a person isn’t actively working on their brokenness and are just wallowing in self pity, then stop the bullshit! If this is you, then work on yourself. Strive to be the best you that is possible. Stop spreading the damage! If you are lonely, men grow some balls and ladies pull up your big girl panties, learn how to live and grow in your loneliness. Stop dragging people into your murk with lies of friendship and love. You know the degree to which you are broken and your capacity to give in relationships. You SHOULD know if you are healthy enough to involve others, whether it be platonic, familial or romantic relations. If you don’t know, get with a therapist or a support group and find out…not rocket science here.
KISS – KEEP IT SIMPLE STUPID! What did our Moms teach us? Uhm let’s see…because I am pretty sure the lessons are universal: 1- If you do not have a kind word to speak, hush your mouth. 2- treat others how you would like to be treated, not how they treat you. 3- Two wrongs do not make a right. 4- Communicate your wants and needs in a respectful manner, otherwise hush your mouth. 5- Do not lie. 6- Do not steal. 7- Do not abuse yourself or others. 8- Share. 9- Always strive to be positive, glass half full. 10- Do not play the blame game, own your mistakes. 11- Do not cheat. 12- Be a good sport. I could go on and on, but these are the things that are top of mind that I was taught AS A CHILD.
This all is not rocket science. But I am beginning to believe classes should be offered or that basic communication, manners and kindness should be taught in schools. Being kind is sometimes an effort and if you are not in a place where you can add value to others, then stay alone and work on yourself until you unwind that chaos knot that causes you to spew your hatefulness onto others. What comes out of your mouth is spilling out of your heart…think on that and you will be able to ascertain what fills you. And just let me say, there are a lot of people walking around full of caca. I feel like most have bumped their heads and feel like they are entitled to this absurd, bratty and ridiculous behavior. Just stop already!
If you find yourself on the receiving end of someone’s mickey mouse bullshit, well then kindly tell them their behavior is not deserved by you and will not be tolerated. It may indeed need to be communicated that their behavior is a deal breaker. If you stoop to that person’s childish means of communication such as cussing, yelling and name calling, then you are as wrong as they. The best means of communicating one’s wants, needs and boundaries is to keep a normal tone of voice, speak clearly and concisely while making adequate eye contact, allow the other person to speak without interupting, truly listen, ask questions and leave the jokes and sarcasm out of the mix.
Do I shake with anger and want to scream and cuss? Sure. But I have put in the work on myself and I am controlled enough to put my little two year old id where she belongs and carry on as an adult.
If everyone would work on themselves instead of blaming, controlling and trying to change everyone else, this world would be so much better of a place. But…if my brother had a who-ha, he’d be my sister. People do the work! Stop spreading your BS around like it is a right you have. Bumped your head! That’s what most of you have done, just bumped your little heads. Most adults need a leather belt a hold of their legs.
Carry on and have a great and safe 4th of July (it is my favorite day of the year).
Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.
Og Mandino
Trust is the most important part of a relationship, closely followed by communication. I think that if you have those two things, everything else falls into place – your affection, your emotional connection.
Vanessa Lachey
We need to teach our children empathy and care and love and communication and social responsibility in preparation for adulthood.
Maya Soetoro-Ng
Just Shae It 